What do you do when you suddenly realize that the man you’ve spent half your life with is a person that you literally cannot stand?
I’m sure that some would immediately advocate that it was time to get a divorce, for the two of you to part ways and move on with your lives. However, that’s not always possible.
In most family situations which involve small children, married couples find themselves in a situation where they are more than just a romantic couple – but instead business partners. And, anyone who’s ever been in business with another person knows, sometimes it’s not always easy – or cost effective – to sever a business relationship. So, if you’re one of those women who has suddenly realized that you can’t stand the man that’s sharing your bed, and divorce isn’t exactly an option that is most beneficial for everyone involved, then here are some handy tips to help you live with a man you hate – without running the risk of spending time in prison.
Find a hobby
This might seem trivial, and even insignificant, but many marriages have sustained many years simply because one or both parties in the marriage have found a hobby which helps to occupy their time. I personally found that by adopting a hobby which my spouse found no interest in whatsoever, I was allowed to have a level of free-time that kept me from having to spend endless hours of my life in the same room where he was at.
It’s also a good idea to encourage him to find a hobby as well. By letting him know that you really don’t mind him going fishing, or golfing, then you’ll have even more time that you can spend apart from one another.
Build a schedule
Conveniently for women, men are creatures of habit. If it is your sole intention to spend as little time with your spouse as possible, then develop a schedule which allows just that. By introducing elements slowly and without alarm, you’ll quickly realize that it’s entirely possible to live in the same house with another person and rarely see them at all!
Take a class
What a better excuse to further your education then by getting the added benefit of fewer hours around your spouse. Depending on the age of your children, taking college classes can be a bit tricky to work out. However, keep in mind that many colleges offer on-site daycare facilities if you’re in need of a babysitter. If your children are older, however, then chances are they are busy with activities of their own and don’t require as much of your time. If this is the case, then take advantage of the opportunity to escape for a couple hours, while at the same time learning something new and exciting.
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Have limited conversation
If you’ve truly found that you indeed loathe your spouse, then spend as little time as possible engaged in conversation – otherwise you’ll run the risk of letting the hatred leak out. Spend an allotted amount of time talking about things that effect the both of you as a partnership like the kids, bills, or family schedules. Beyond that, and a quick “How was your day”, try to say as little as possible. Not only will this help to not leak out hatred, but it will also prevent an unruly argument from taking place.
All in all, it’s important to understand that just because you’ve grown to hate your spouse that doesn’t mean that your life is over. By learning how to adjust your schedule, include new activities and with the purchase of a new personal massager – you’ll find that living in an unhappy marriage isn’t so bad after all.